the essence of big love

The risk of loving big is that big goodbyes can wreck you. If you've lived long enough, you've experienced it. The reverberating pain of saying goodbye to someone you love dearly. I've been to more funerals than I can count. My beloved father passed away when I was a teen, and three more people I … Continue reading the essence of big love

build a bridge

Trying to wing the toast at my son’s wedding last May was a horrible idea. Once I had the microphone and looked out at that historic, lakefront ballroom full of cherished family and friends, I felt an uncomfortable lump forming in my throat. When I turned to address the bride and groom, the swelling mysteriously … Continue reading build a bridge

one single word

What was going on? Yes, they lost the game and I knew he was extremely disappointed, but this sophomore in high school and quarterback of the football team was not one to cry in public. I was working the concession stand, selling snacks and laughing with other parents and the abundance of those that always … Continue reading one single word

an unbreakable bond

I rolled over restlessly at the first morning light and spotted the thick, folded pile of papers that had been pushed under my door.  My heart dropped to my feet and I jumped up to grab them.  For an eighth of a second I thought - did he run away? did he hurt himself? - … Continue reading an unbreakable bond

a legacy of love

What do you think people will say about you after you’re gone?  What do you want to be remembered for? What will your legacy be? Back in high school, my classmates and I once had a homework assignment to write our own obituaries.  I remember hating that requirement and feeling that it was extremely morbid, … Continue reading a legacy of love